Shame is the demon of the Sacral Chakra. It first arrives when we are in our very early years (before age 5) and we are served shame through typical punishment or dysfunction (abusive upbringings, trauma, abandonment, family secrets). If we are shamed often or forcefully enough, it will be held in our energy and become part of the sacral energy’s identity. As we grow older, that shame becomes guilt. And every time we make a mistake or do something (seemingly selfish) for ourselves, we find ourselves feeling a bit of guilt. Sometimes even sexual desire is accompanied by guilt!
Shame and guilt are the pieces of our sacral identity that prevent us from allowing ourselves to give in to our desires and from truly enjoying the sweetness that life has to offer. A major step in healing sacral energy is learning to step away from the shame and guilt that hold us back, so that we can embrace life with unapologetic happiness and enjoyment.
The Sacral Chakra isn’t the only energy center affected by guilt and shame. In fact, these feelings serve as barriers within each one of our chakras; and they prevent the tasks of each chakra from being effectively carried out.
Because guilt and shame are so debilitating to our energetic wellness, it is essential that we learn to interact with this Sacral Chakra demon in a way that can allow healing to occur. If the wounds are deep, counseling should be seriously considered as an option for healing... especially if you’ve already reached a point where the symptoms are noticeable throughout the energetic system.
There are also some activities that you can take to your journal to begin the healing process. These activities include:
Writing about your earliest childhood memories, with the goal of pinpointing the sources of your early shame. The purpose is not to lay blame on your parents or childhood caregivers, but rather to understand where your adult feelings of guilt originated. This can be helpful in the process of healing as an adult.
Writing a loving and heart-felt letter to your 5-year-old self, letting her know that she is now forgiven. Help her understand whatever dysfunction may have been taking place in her early life; and explain to her that she no longer has to carry the burden of that dysfunction.
Making a list of all the things you’d like to do, but don’t because you would feel too guilty. Cross offthose things that are illegal, hurtful to others, or damaging to your own health or well-being. Then work on setting realistic goals for yourself to do those things that remain. Start small... maybe choosing one thing each month.
Writing a conversation between you and Sacral Chakra. Ask your sacral energy what it desires; and then respond in your own voice by reassuring your energy that it is deserving of those things.
Collecting positive mantras or affirmations that speak to happiness, having what you desire, and enjoying life. Visit these pages often to remind yourself that YOU deserve happiness, having what you desire, and living an enjoyable life.
Again, I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to come to defeat this demon that lives in your Sacral Chakra. This is a time when counseling, Chakra Coaching, or the help of a trusted healer should be seriously considered... the consequences of living with this demon are severe, and the wounds often too deep to heal alone.
If you are a parent, I would encourage you to consider your own parenting style. Are you shaming your child for responding to their own (developing) Sacral Chakra needs? Is shame your method of discipline in general? Understand that making use of shame to modify your child’s behaviors during this fragile time of development can cause negative consequences that he/she may carry into adulthood. You, too, may want to consider some professional guidance on how to nurture your child through their years of sacral development.